Manifestation Mistakes: Lessons from My Rabbit Trails

My manifestation rabbit trails…

 If you have watched any of my videos from 2024, you will see that I was very focused on very specific individuals in my manifesting-a-new-partner-journey.  You will also see that this DID NOT WORK WELL! (My therapist even warned me about this, but I was stubborn and did not listen. Sorry!)

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My first manifestation misstep was regarding a person I barely saw at a party in April 2024, triggering what I now know was an amazing and long-lasting case of limerence (aka Cute Party Guy).  Although I still think he was an important part of my story (for different reasons, entirely!), hindsight shows that I was NOT healed enough to actually be in a relationship, but the fantasy of having someone was a soothing proposition.  (For what it is worth, I was also getting signs about limerence from my team during that time, but I also chose to ignore them. Silly me.)

While my daydreaming tendencies were obviously misguided, my ability to fantasize about what kind of relationship I wanted was an important part of the manifestation scripting process.  To put myself in a scenario and feel what it would be like was helpful, because manifesting requires that kind of emotional “seeing” to activate.  I, however, struggle to imagine things from scratch, so having a mental stand-in helped me to capture the emotion…the only problem is, when you latch onto a specific person, rather than allowing the Universe to bring the right someone to you, you might inadvertently delay or even block your manifestations entirely. 

We must never forget the question of free will.  Manifesting someone specific without their consent gets into a tricky spiritual gray zone, which was my therapist’s main complaint. What if they are already in a relationship? What if YOU aren't what is best for THEM? Targeting a specific person, rather than letting the Universe bring the RIGHT person at the RIGHT time, is not really manifesting, it's more like energetic manipulation. Sorry, folks!

I wish I could say I learned my lesson with the first mishap, but, alas, I had another grand detour that was even more far-fetched than the first one. But this one is where my neurodivergence comes into play. I can sometimes be a little too black-and-white in my logic and when I kept reading/seeing signs to dream big, expect the unexpected, I did. You can't say I don't try!

My second misstep was a hot mess.  I cringe when I think of how another case of unbridled limerence led me on a wild goose chase to fixate on a person I met as a teenager, who lives in another country.  In my defense, I was still trying to understand my signs and synchronicities and this person’s name matched a specific Tarot card I kept getting to represent “my person,” and he did match other signs I thought I was tracking.  He, however, was not amused.

Basically, I was so OFF the mark that I literally had to restart my current journal, to get back on track.  But, as my spirit team reminded me…nothing is wasted.  And, indeed, nothing has been.  The truth is my mistakes have taught me some really important lessons that I can now pass on to you. In other words, I already made the mistakes, so you don't have to!

1.      Focus on the what, not the who or the when.  Focus on the feelings you want to feel when you are with your person or have the goal you are trying to manifest, not the person or thing itself.  How does it make you feel when you are with them?  How is your life when you have achieved that goal?  And then LET IT GO.

2.      Delays or mistakes happen—it doesn’t mean you are “bad at manifesting.” Maybe you just need a little more time to heal, or perhaps the thing you think you want isn’t, in fact, what is best for you. TRUST YOUR SPIRIT TEAM AND DIVINE TIMING!

3.      Controlling the process by trying to make a person fit the signs you are getting will not work. Trust me.

4.      Trust your manifestation scripts.  If a person or situation shows up in your life and they are NOT following what you have scripted, IT IS NOT FOR YOU.

I have thrown countless fits with my spirit team about “divine timing”—why can’t all this stuff work on my schedule?—but I can now say that I get it.  My team was right.  They are always going to bring you what is BEST FOR YOU.  And sometimes that looks like something different than you expect.  But if you let the Universe bring the blessings to you, they will be more amazing than you could even imagine.  TRUST THE PROCESS!